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How to Sound Confident

Name: How to Sound Confident
Uploaded: 2025-03-29T05:00:25+00:00
Duration: 1 min 28 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this coaching segment, the speaker reframes confidence not as a pre‑existing trait but as an outcome that emerges when a person uses an assertive…

29 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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In this coaching segment, the speaker reframes confidence not as a pre‑existing trait but as an outcome that emerges when a person uses an assertive voice and takes assertive actions. By contrasting the futile attempt to "conjure" confidence with the tangible effect of physically assertive behavior (e.g., an elbow to the chest), the speaker illustrates that confidence is generated through doing, not feeling. The core teaching is that mastering an assertive vocal style leads directly to feeling confident, and the most confident individuals are those who have already performed assertive acts. The talk is concise, motivational, and aimed at providing a practical mindset shift for anyone seeking to speak and act with confidence.

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You find confidence by using your assertive voice. How do I say something with confidence? You have to first understand what it is. And I don't mean that in like a woo-woo setting. A lot of people come to me and go, how do I have the confidence to say this? I'm getting up the courage or confidence to say that. It's the wrong way to look at it. Confidence is not what you have before. Confidence is the outcome.. And you get to that by saying things that are assertive. What I teach is confidence is as assertive does. So when you learn how to use your assertive voice, the result is feeling confident. Like if I were to tell you right now, Stephen, I need you to feel sad. You have a hard time feeling sad. If I say I need you to be afraid right now, you're like, I don't know. I mean, what? What is there to be afraid of? Like, you just can't conjure that feeling. Now, if I, for whatever reason, just gave you an elbow to the chest, I mean, you'd be like upset, right? You don't have to wonder what it's like to feel mad. You're gonna feel it. It's the same with confidence. You can't just conjure up the feeling of confidence. You only get it by doing assertive things. And the people that are most confident, I find, are the people that have done the thing already. So they have already said the assertive thing. They've already used their voice, because the more assertive they are, the more confident they're going to feel. That's the way it works. So you do it, you find confidence by using your assertive voice.