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How to Sound Confident Asserting a Boundary

Name: How to Sound Confident Asserting a Boundary
Uploaded: 2024-09-19T03:31:27+00:00
Duration: 48 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, the speaker outlines three practical strategies for asserting personal boundaries with confidence. First, they…

19 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, the speaker outlines three practical strategies for asserting personal boundaries with confidence. First, they emphasize that discomfort from others does not invalidate a boundary; rather, it signals that the boundary is serving its protective purpose. Second, they recommend using the phrase "I need" to state requests directly, framing the boundary as a clear, non‑selfish expression of personal needs. Third, they advise replacing questions with declarative statements to avoid sounding tentative and to maintain control over the interaction. The overall message encourages listeners to adopt these communication techniques to enforce boundaries assertively and without guilt.

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How to sound confident asserting a boundary. Number 1: If someone doesn't like your boundary, it doesn't mean that it's wrong. It means that it's working. A boundary is not for their protection, but for yours. So take confidence in knowing that the very reason they're uncomfortable with it is the very reason that you need it. Number 2: Get comfortable with the phrase "I need," like "I need to take a step away," or "I need you to lower your voice." Whenever you use "I need," it's not selfish. It's you sounding direct and assertive. Exactly how a boundary should be. And number 3, don't use questions, use statements. For example, instead of, "Can you stop talking to me that way?" "I need you to stop talking to me that way." When you use questions, it sounds weaker and less confident, but statements sound stronger and always keep the control in your hands. And that's how to sound more confident with a boundary. So try that. Don't follow me.