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How to Sound Confident Asserting a Boundary #shorts

Name: How to Sound Confident Asserting a Boundary #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-06-10T19:00:18+00:00
Duration: 48 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise coaching video, the speaker outlines three actionable strategies for asserting personal boundaries with confidence. First, they explain…

10 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise coaching video, the speaker outlines three actionable strategies for asserting personal boundaries with confidence. First, they explain that a boundary’s validity isn’t diminished by others’ discomfort; rather, the discomfort signals the boundary’s necessity. Second, they recommend adopting the phrase “I need…” to communicate needs directly and assertively, framing it as non‑selfish. Third, they advise replacing request‑style questions with declarative statements, arguing that statements convey stronger authority and keep control with the speaker. The video concludes by encouraging viewers to apply these tips.

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How to sound confident asserting a boundary. Number 1: If someone doesn't like your boundary, it doesn't mean that it's wrong. It means that it's working. A boundary is not for their protection, but for yours. So take confidence in knowing that the very reason they're uncomfortable with it is the very reason that you need it. Number 2: Get comfortable with the phrase "I need," like "I need to take a step away," or "I need you to lower your voice." Whenever you use "I need," it's not selfish. It's you sounding direct and assertive. Exactly how a boundary should be. And number 3, don't use questions, use statements. For example, instead of, "Can you stop talking to me that way?" "I need you to stop talking to me that way." When you use questions, it sounds weaker and less confident, but statements sound stronger and always keep the control in your hands. And that's how to sound more confident with a boundary. So try that and follow me.