How to Sound More Assertive
27 Mar 2025 · 1 min
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Three ways to sound more assertive: state your desired outcome upfront, use boundary words like "accept" and "allow," and cut the filler word "just" in favor of stronger verbs.
Three ways to sound more assertive: state your desired outcome upfront, use boundary words like "accept" and "allow," and cut the filler word "just" in favor of stronger verbs.
How to sound more assertive. Number 1: Be upfront. And to do that, you have to start from the back, meaning you're going to tell them how you want the conversation to end. For example, "I want to end this conversation with a clear plan of action," or "I want to walk away from this conversation with the understanding that this isn't going to happen again." When you set the direction of the conversation, that's being assertive. Number 2: Use words that signal boundaries. My favorite are "accept" and "allow." For example, "I do not accept the way you're talking to me right now," or "I do not allow that kind of behavior." When you use words that signal boundaries, it not not only keeps you assertive but also keeps your emotions in check. Number 3, be careful with the word "just." Like, "I just wanted to touch base," "I just wanted to check in." It makes you sound too hesitant, and in a professional setting, you really don't need it at all. Just remove it. "I wanted to touch base," "I wanted to check in." It makes a stronger verb, a stronger sentence, and it makes you sound a lot more assertive. So try that and follow me.
