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How to Stand Up for Yourself Pt.2 #shorts

Name: How to Stand Up for Yourself Pt.2 #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-09-24T17:00:00+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short coaching video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines a three‑step framework for asserting personal boundaries and standing up for oneself. First…

24 Sept 2023 · 1 min

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In this short coaching video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines a three‑step framework for asserting personal boundaries and standing up for oneself. First, she advises viewers to clearly define how others may speak to them by setting explicit communication rules, likening the process to a card game with defined parameters. Second, she stresses the importance of not retreating once a boundary is set, warning against emotional reactions that could undermine the line drawn. Third, she recommends re‑engaging only when the interaction is likely to be productive, using the mantra “if it’s worth talking about now, it’s worth talking about later” to defer unproductive conversations. The video concludes with a call to follow her for more guidance.

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How to stand up for yourself, part 2. If it's worth standing up for, you better learn to stand still. We're going to do that by, one, drawing a line over how they are allowed to speak to us. I said allowed because you are the bouncer to your own self-esteem. We draw that boundary by explaining it like it's a new card game. These are the rules, these are the parameters under which I operate, and if you can't follow those, if you can't speak to me respectfully, then you will not get what you want from me. Number 2, once you set that boundary, you cannot take one single step back. Whatever emotional response comes out of their mouth, you cannot let that clickbait you into a conversation that erases the line you just said. Number 3: Re-engage only if you feel comfortable that it's going to be productive. If it's not, then just give it time. A phrase that has helped me is, if it's worth talking about now, it's worth talking about later. And that's how you stand up for yourself. So try that and follow me.