How to Stand Up For Yourself

Here's how to stand up for yourself. My name is Jefferson Fisher. I'm a trial attorney and I teach people how to argue and communicate. The first thing to know about standing up for yourself is knowing when to do it, because not everybody is worth getting out of your chair for. It is a know your worth mentality. Every little thing that somebody says does not mean it requires a response from you. So just because they spew out trash does not mean we're in the business of digging through the garbage. Number 2, eliminate apologies and conditional language before making your position. So it's not, I'm sorry, but I kind of feel uncomfortable about this. No, it's, I feel uncomfortable. It's not, um, I could be wrong about this, but I feel this way. No, you state exactly how you feel. Do not apologize or invalidate your own boundaries. Number 3: Get in the habit of saying no without justifying it. If you start justifying and telling your position, well, now they're going to start defending against your justification rather than coming up with a better solution. So try that and follow me.