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How to Stay Calm in an Argument #shorts

Name: How to Stay Calm in an Argument #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-06-14T19:00:24+00:00
Duration: 55 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable techniques for maintaining composure during a heated…

14 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable techniques for maintaining composure during a heated argument. First, she advises naming the felt emotion aloud using phrases like “I can tell I’m getting frustrated,” emphasizing that verbal acknowledgment helps regulate the feeling. Second, she recommends releasing physical tension through deep breathing and muscle relaxation, counteracting the body's instinct to react with yelling or aggression. Third, she suggests intentionally slowing down speech, providing examples such as “I just need a break right now,” to prevent rapid talking from escalating tension. The video concludes with an invitation for viewers to practice these steps in real time.

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How to stay calm in an argument. Number 1, say how you're feeling out loud. We're going to do that with the phrase, I can tell. I can tell I'm getting frustrated. I can tell I'm getting upset. I can tell I'm not ready to have this conversation. We say it out loud because when you claim it, you control it. Number 2, release your tension. You're so focused on what the other person is saying that you don't allow your body to release tension, so it does it for you. It makes you yell, it makes you cry, it makes you want to throw things, all to release tension. So to put it in more positive ways, release it by using your breath as much as you can and relax your muscles. And number 3, intentionally slow down your words. When you talk really fast, it ramps up that tension. We want to do the opposite, so slow your words down. For example, I just, I just need a break right now, okay? I need some space. I need some space. And that's how to calm yourself in an argument. So try that. Now follow me.