Over-apologizing signals you need approval and ties your worth to being inconvenient. Instead of apologizing when you ask for something, say thank you and state what you need directly. This keeps your confidence intact and shows your value doesn't depend on taking up space.
How to stop over-apologizing. You know what I'm talking about. So sorry, I just need to clarify something real quick. So sorry, I'm just now seeing this. So sorry, I'm just now responding. When you over-apologize, you are draining your power because what you're really saying in those little so-sorry moments is, please still like me. And it is past time that you knew that your self-worth is not tied to how little of an inconvenience you can be. So here's a little trick. When somebody needs something from you, you thank them. Thank them for waiting. Thank them for their patience. Thank them for their time. When you need something from them, you just tell them what you want without apologizing. You tell them what you need. So instead of, I'm sorry to bother you, I need a moment of your time when you get a second. Instead of, hey, I'm sorry, I need to clarify, I need to add on to what you just said. You are asserting your needs, and that never needs an apology. So try that and follow me.
