Shanli Liu explains why oversharing damages how others see you. Ask yourself if someone needs to know something right now, the answer is usually no. Genuine connection rarely comes from talking about yourself.
How to stop oversharing. If you wouldn't share your personal closet with them, don't share your personal thoughts with them. When you overshare, it's like handing out your favorite sweatshirt. The other person is not going to love it like you do, or protect it, or guard it like you do. So to help with that, try this. Number 1: Add a "now" filter. It asks the question, "But do they need to know it now?" We want them to know something. In fact, we think they may even need to know something. But do they need to know it now? Most of the time, the answer is no. Number 2, when you overshare, you undervalue the price of your words. Even when you answer that harmless question at work, "How was your weekend?" It allows the other person to create a perception of you, for good or bad, and that comes at a very high cost. And number 3, understand that true connection rarely comes from just talking about yourself. So if you ever think, "Am I talking too much?" The answer is always yes. So try that and follow me.
