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How to Stop Oversharing #shorts

Name: How to Stop Oversharing #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-10-11T19:00:14+00:00
Duration: 54 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short monologue, the speaker offers three concise strategies to curb oversharing. First, they suggest applying a "now" filter—ask whether the…

11 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker offers three concise strategies to curb oversharing. First, they suggest applying a "now" filter—ask whether the listener truly needs to know the information immediately, which most of the time they don’t. Second, they explain that oversharing devalues one’s words, as every personal disclosure shapes others’ perception of you at a high cost. Third, they emphasize that genuine connection rarely stems from talking about oneself; self‑focus tends to dominate conversations, so the default answer to “Am I talking too much?” should be yes. The speaker wraps up with a call to follow for more advice.

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How to stop oversharing. If you wouldn't share your personal closet with them, don't share your personal thoughts with them. When you overshare, it's like handing out your favorite sweatshirt. The other person's not going to love it like you do, or protect it, or guard it like you do. So to help with that, try this. Number 1: Add a "now" filter. It asks the question, "But do they need to know it now?" We want them to know something. In fact, we think they may even need to know something. But do they need to know it now? Most of the time, the answer is no. Number 2: When you overshare, you undervalue the price of your words. Even when you answer that harmless question at work, "How was your weekend?" It allows the other person to create a perception of you, for good or bad, and that comes at a very high cost. And number 3: Understand that true connection rarely comes from just talking about yourself. So if you ever think, "Am I talking too much?" The answer is always yes. So try that and follow me.