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How to Stop People Pleasing #shorts

Name: How to Stop People Pleasing #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-09-18T17:00:20+00:00
Duration: 50 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this brief coaching monologue, the speaker outlines three concrete strategies to break the habit of people‑pleasing. First, they urge listeners to…

18 Sept 2023 · 1 min

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In this brief coaching monologue, the speaker outlines three concrete strategies to break the habit of people‑pleasing. First, they urge listeners to prioritize their own needs by recognizing the monetary and brand value of their time and lowering their tolerance for over‑accommodation, especially when their gut says no. Second, they advise finding an authentic personal voice that feels regret‑free, emphasizing that volume does not equal strength. Third, they recommend practicing saying no without offering excuses, starting with low‑stakes situations to build confidence, and reassure that others will generally be fine when you set boundaries. The speaker ends with an encouragement to try these steps and follow them for more guidance.

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How to stop people pleasing. Number 1, if you're going to people please, at least make sure that you're one of them. You're so used to making sure everybody else is happy but yourself. We got to stop that. You got to lower your tolerance for accommodating. That means if your gut says no, we don't say yes. Understand that your time has a value, and that value is associated with your brand, and your brand, it never goes on sale. Number 2, find your voice. It doesn't need to sound like anybody else but you. You know you have it when it has no regret in it. Doesn't matter if you're soft-spoken or you're quiet. A loud voice doesn't mean it's a strong voice. Number 3: Practice saying no without any excuse. Start small with friends, at home, at a restaurant. It's the only way to grow. And I know we don't like disappointing people, but when you say no, they're really gonna be okay. Trust me, they're going to live. They really are. So try that and follow me.