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How to Take Control of a Conversation

Name: How to Take Control of a Conversation
Uploaded: 2024-12-19T14:00:35+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise tutorial, the speaker outlines a three‑step method for steering a conversation in your favor. First, interrupt by addressing the other…

19 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise tutorial, the speaker outlines a three‑step method for steering a conversation in your favor. First, interrupt by addressing the other person by name, which pauses their momentum and signals respect. Second, follow the interruption with a brief compliment or agreement about their prior statement, which reduces defensiveness and prevents them from tightening control. Third, immediately pivot the dialogue by posing a curiosity‑driven question introduced with the phrase “I’m curious to know…”, allowing you to steer the topic toward your desired direction. The speaker emphasizes avoiding dismissive words like “well,” “no,” or “but,” which tend to reinforce the other person’s grip on the exchange. The overall message is a practical, repeatable script for gaining conversational authority.

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How to take control of a conversation. Number 1, you cut into it, and you do that by using the person's name. If you begin with, "Well, I..." or "No..." or "But..." they don't like those words. They'll double down on their control and tighten their grip on the conversation. But if you use their name, well, they like that word, and they'll pause just long enough to listen. Number 2, make a comment about what they just said. Now, ideally, it should be a compliment of sorts. And it can be really simple. For example, Jefferson, you make a good point there. Or Jefferson, I agree, this is worth talking about. You see, when it sounds like you're challenging them, they tighten control. But if it sounds like a compliment, they'll let it go without even knowing. Number 3, immediately ask a question of curiosity. That means you're going to say the phrase, I'm curious to know, and then direct the conversation wherever you need it to go. Maybe it's to yourself or back to the other person, to someone else. And that's how to take control of the conversation. So try that, but follow me.