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How to Talk to Someone You Don’t Like

Name: How to Talk to Someone You Don’t Like
Uploaded: 2024-12-28T15:00:13+00:00
Duration: 47 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise advice video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable strategies for interacting with people you dislike while preserving your…

28 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise advice video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable strategies for interacting with people you dislike while preserving your own reputation and influence. First, treat the person as you would anyone else, focusing on how observers perceive your behavior rather than trying to win the disliked individual over. Second, adopt a neutral, self‑assured demeanor by putting emotions in a "vacuum"—avoiding negative body language and projecting indifference. Third, keep communication strictly factual, steering clear of snide or sarcastic remarks, and answer questions directly. The overarching message is that personal dislike should never compromise your likability or professionalism.

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How to talk to someone you don't like. Number 1, talk to them like you do. It's not about trying to win them over, it's winning the other people around you over. See, people pay attention to what you're doing. They're watching you and listening to you, and they may not have the whole backstory, so don't lose your integrity just because of that other person. Number 2, if you can't do that, go neutral. Put your emotions in a vacuum. That means you're not going to cross your arms, you're not going to roll your eyes. Instead, you're going to take a mindset of self-assuredness, one that says your presence "Does not bother me." And number 3, keep the commentary at home. That means just stick to the facts. For example, let's say they ask you what time the meeting is. Instead of saying, "Well, you'd know if you were here," you're just gonna say, "1 PM." Remember, not liking somebody is never a good excuse for making yourself less likable. So try that and follow me.