At 19, the speaker watched a socially awkward fraternity brother attract a girl while spitting into a cup, unbothered by how he looked. That moment taught him authenticity beats trying to impress people. If someone doesn't like the real you, that's their problem.
So when I was 19 years old, I was a pledge, and in my fraternity, pledges had to be designated drivers. So I would drive drunk brothers home all night long. And one night, this guy got in, and he always pulled the hottest chick. And I was like, how does this guy do this? And so he's sitting in the back, he's spitting into a cup because he's dipping, and this smoke show next to him is like, oh my God, it's so gross. And then she pats me, she's like, tell him how gross it is. He said, Hormozy, life lesson. And I like listened up. This girl is more attracted to the fact that I don't care at all about what she thinks than she is repulsed by the fact that I'm dipping. He was actually giving me a really deep life lesson, which was that even though he understood that some girls would probably think it was gross, he would feel more gross about himself if he weren't who he really was. I realized there's two sides of it. Either you pretend to be someone you're not and the person actually falls for somebody that you aren't, or you're exactly who you are and you can be certain in that fact. And if someone doesn't like you, fuck them. Then you can actually have all the game you want because the game is just you.
