Three rules for deciding whether to speak up in relationships: say something if feelings linger, stay quiet if it's just for your relief, and speak if the person matters enough to deepen the bond. Unsaid words block real connection.
How do I know when to say something or let it go? Number 1: When the feelings won't fade, say something. Yeah, maybe your mind has let it go, but your true feelings won't. They'll continue to carry it around without you even knowing it. So if the feelings won't fade, you need to say something. Number 2: If it's only for you, let it go. The question to ask yourself is, is what I'm about to say going to make the relationship better, or is it only to make me feel better? And if it's only for you, you should probably let it go. And number 3, if they are worth your time, say something. If this person is worth your attention, if they're worth your energy, then you need to say something or else you lose out on the opportunity to strengthen that relationship because unsaid words don't make strong bonds. So try that and follow me.
