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Look At Who You Blame

Name: Look At Who You Blame
Uploaded: 2025-12-24T02:00:15+00:00
Duration: 35 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this monologue, the speaker argues that blaming external sources (e.g., parents) transfers power to those perceived sources, leaving the individual…

24 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that blaming external sources (e.g., parents) transfers power to those perceived sources, leaving the individual feeling powerless. By contrast, attributing one’s difficulties to personal shortcomings such as lack of resilience or adaptability acknowledges personal agency, thereby granting the individual the ability to take corrective action. The core message is that recognizing internal control over one’s responses to stress empowers change, whereas external blame cedes control to others.

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It is so much easier to cast blame outwards. Your power follows the direction of where you point blame. So if you say, I'm this way because my mom didn't hug me enough, I'm this way because my dad didn't hug me enough, then guess who actually has complete control over your life? Them, or your perception of them. But if you said, I am this way because I am not resilient enough, I was not adaptive enough, I didn't have enough tolerance to be able to handle that level of stress, Well, then guess what you can now do? You can do something about it because you admitted at least you were in charge. You were the one in control, or you have some control, some influence over the outcome of how you act.