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STOP taking on their emotions!

Name: STOP taking on their emotions!
Uploaded: 2025-10-28T16:15:27+00:00
Duration: 58 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this self‑help segment, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, explains how to manage conflict by shifting from emotional absorption to detached observation. She…

28 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this self‑help segment, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, explains how to manage conflict by shifting from emotional absorption to detached observation. She advises listeners to treat a conversation like watching a movie: notice the words without immediately reacting, consider the speaker’s intent, and view oneself as the director of the scene. This mental reframing creates space for bodily regulation, reduces anxiety, and enables a calmer, more purposeful response rather than being swept up in the other person’s emotions.

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If you want to handle conflict at a different level of consciousness that you did not know you could handle it, it is going to be the key of not absorbing what they say, but observing what they say. That means instead of going, how could he say that to me? Oh my gosh, I'm— and you start holding your breath and you start getting flustered and you get nervous, or maybe you tear up. It's because you're not seeing it as, I wonder where they're going with this. When you are observing what's happening, it's like you are sitting in a movie theater with your popcorn and you're watching the conversation take place. And That puts you in a different perspective of looking at the person who's talking to you and thinking, "I wonder why that character is saying this. I wonder what scene is coming up next." When you look at it that way, you have full control. You're now the director, the producer, the screenwriter. And from there, that gives you a chance to let your body regulate because you're not in it. You are seeing it. Look for the intent behind the words. Instead of absorbing, you're observing.