The real revenge isn't against the people who hurt you. It's against the version of yourself that didn't become who you could have been. Blaming others gives them power over your life. Blaming yourself takes it back.
If you want revenge for the bad things that have happened in your life, start with the version of you that hasn't lived up to your potential. A lot of times we have this desire to point the blame finger externally, but wherever you point, power follows. And so whoever I blame for the life I have is the person who I give all the power over my existence, over my circumstances. It hurts, but if you turn the finger inwards and you start saying, huh, I don't like my life, the person that I need to punish or get back at is the real person who got me here, which is me. You may be right that other people did certain things or you got dealt a bad hand. It also doesn't matter because the only thing that you can control is obviously the actions that you take, and the only person who's in control of that is you.
