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The Right Way to Confront Someone #shorts

Name: The Right Way to Confront Someone #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-11-26T22:00:08+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the speaker outlines a three‑step framework for confronting someone effectively and constructively. Step 1, “stay on…

26 Nov 2023 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the speaker outlines a three‑step framework for confronting someone effectively and constructively. Step 1, “stay on point,” advises avoiding defensive diversions by focusing on the pattern of behavior rather than past incidents. Step 2, “be specific,” stresses the importance of clearly identifying the exact behavior and the desired change, distinguishing confrontation from mere complaining. Step 3, “don’t assume intent,” recommends describing the impact on you without attributing motive, then listening to the other person. The speaker provides concrete phrasing examples for each step, emphasizing a calm, fact‑based approach that encourages dialogue rather than escalation.

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The right way to confront someone. Number 1, stay on point. Their typical reaction is to become defensive and distract you. For example, let's assume you need to address a recurring problem. You might hear something like, "All you do is just bring up the past." Instead of chasing that, pause and stay on point with something like, "I'm not bringing up the past, I'm bringing up the pattern." Number 2, be specific. Know exactly what they did wrong and most importantly, what you're asking them to do. If you just start talking without knowing where you wanna go, That's not confronting, that's complaining. And number 3, don't assume intent. Don't say something like, "Well, you just did that because..." or "You did that to hurt me." That's talking about intent and that's not staying on point. Instead, tell them how it hurt you. Tell them how it made you feel and then hear them out. And that's the right way to confront someone. So try that. Follow me.