There's No "Perfect Partner"
In this monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, argues against the common belief in a soulmate or a perfectly chosen partner. She observes that many people create exhaustive checklists of ideal traits—often hundreds—when seeking a mate, which creates unrealistic expectations. Liu suggests narrowing the list to three essential, non‑negotiable qualities that are unlikely to change over a lifetime. She emphasizes focusing on long‑term, immutable compatibility factors (values, life goals, fundamental personality traits) rather than transient, surface‑level interests that may evolve (e.g., a hobby like fencing). By adopting a longer‑term perspective, the search for a “perfect match” becomes more realistic, as only a few core attributes truly matter across decades.
