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Top 3 Argument Responses #shorts

Name: Top 3 Argument Responses #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-02-12T20:00:29+00:00
Duration: 50 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher shares three specific phrasing techniques designed to keep conversational partners…

12 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher shares three specific phrasing techniques designed to keep conversational partners from becoming defensive during arguments. He advises first responders to begin their reply with a statement that includes "I agree," even if they don't truly agree, to acknowledge the value of the discussion and lower the other person's guard. The second technique is to say "I've learned" followed by a reflection on the importance of the topic to the other person, which signals that the speaker feels educated and understood. The third technique is to use the phrase "That's helpful to know," which acknowledges the other person's contribution and encourages receptivity. Fisher frames these strategies as simple, repeatable language cues that can make arguments more collaborative and less confrontational.

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These 3 responses will keep somebody from getting defensive. My name is Jefferson Fisher. I'm a trial attorney, and I teach people how to argue and communicate. When it's your turn to respond in an argument, you can actually keep somebody from getting defensive. If you want, start with what you agree with. Now, you don't actually even have to agree with what they said. You can go macro and just agree that the two of you are talking. For example, you can say, "I agree that this subject is worth discussing," or, "I agree that we should talk about this." As long as you just use the words "I agree," you automatically bring down their wall. Number 2, tell them what you've learned. It can be as easy as, "After listening, I I've learned that this topic is really important to you. As long as they hear the phrase, "I have learned," it makes them feel like they're educating, like they're understood, and now they're less defensive. Or number 3, you can try using the phrase, "That's helpful to know." If you tell them that they've been helpful, it makes them feel like they're invested in their own mutual understanding, and then they're gonna be more receptive to what you have to say. So try that and follow me.