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What to do if someone is gaslighting you

Name: What to do if someone is gaslighting you
Uploaded: 2026-02-18T15:01:43+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise video, CPA Shanli Liu explains a simple, repeatable response to gaslighting: saying “I remember things differently, period.” She warns…

18 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this concise video, CPA Shanli Liu explains a simple, repeatable response to gaslighting: saying “I remember things differently, period.” She warns against over‑explaining or justifying one’s perspective, because doing so gives the gaslighter more material to manipulate. Liu describes how gaslighters use endless talk and shifting blame to drain the victim, and she emphasizes that hearing such tactics should trigger immediate red‑flag alerts in the listener’s mind. The overall message is to keep responses brief, assertive, and to stay alert to manipulative patterns.

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If somebody is gaslighting you, what are you going to do about it? There's a phrase that I continue to teach time and time again because it works so well, and it is this: I remember things differently, period. Not trying to overexplain, to justify— none of that's going to work because the more you justify and try to explain, the more you are exposing the things that they can try and shift, right? For behavior to reaction, from accountability to sensitivity, any of that kind of stuff, that's their playground. It's the ellipses that get you. And when you say, that wasn't my experience because you said this and I said this, and you continue to talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, and now you are what? Overexplaining. And now it becomes how, oh my gosh, you're so draining. Can you hear yourself right now? Can you hear how crazy you sound? Ever been told that before? Whenever you hear that, red flags should just be waving. Alarms should be going off in your mind.