what to say instead of staying silent
In this solo coaching video, the presenter addresses viewers who habitually stay silent to avoid conflict. She offers three practical communication tools: (1) using the phrase “Are you opposed?” to ask permission before bringing up a topic, which tends to reduce defensiveness; (2) asking “Did you mean?” when a comment feels hurtful, prompting clarification and allowing the listener to step back without taking it personally; and (3) consciously labeling one’s own silence (e.g., “I’m going to be quiet for now because I don’t want this to continue”) to recognize it as a deliberate choice rather than an inherent trait. The overarching message is that speaking up is not antithetical to peace—rather, it can be the route to genuine peace. The speaker ends with an encouragement to try these techniques and follow her for more guidance.
