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What to Say to a Backhanded Compliment #shorts

Name: What to Say to a Backhanded Compliment #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-12-27T16:50:22+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three practical tactics for responding to backhanded compliments. The first tactic is…

27 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three practical tactics for responding to backhanded compliments. The first tactic is to echo the remark slowly, prompting the speaker to reconsider their wording. The second tactic is to focus on the positive element of the comment and affirm it. The third, a personal favorite, is to pause for three to five seconds and then simply say "Thank you," maintaining confidence while subtly signaling awareness of the backhanded nature. Each tactic is illustrated with a concrete example, and the speaker encourages viewers to try these approaches to defuse passive‑aggressive remarks and discourage future occurrences.

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What to say to a backhanded compliment. Number 1: Repeat what they said, but slower. For example, let's assume they said, "You're smarter than you look." You will slowly repeat back to them, "You're smarter than you look." The echo of their words will typically cause them to fix what they said and improve the compliment, making it less likely that they'll repeat that behavior in the future. Number 2: Focus on the positive side of the compliment. For example, let's assume they said, "I wasn't expecting that to look so good on you." You will choose the positive side and say, "You're right. I agree. It does look good on me." And number 3, my personal favorite, once they give the backhand a compliment, you just give it 3 to 5 seconds of silence and then say, "Thank you." You say it in a way as if we both know what you said and we both know what you meant, but I'm going to keep my confidence. So try that and follow me.