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What to Say to a Bully

Name: What to Say to a Bully
Uploaded: 2024-08-04T14:00:09+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this brief instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three concise strategies for confronting a bully without giving them the…

4 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three concise strategies for confronting a bully without giving them the emotional payoff they seek. The first tactic is a calm, non‑confrontational question—"Are you okay?"—which signals disapproval and denies the bully a reaction. The second tactic involves asking intent‑focused questions such as "Did you mean to embarrass me?" to mirror the bully’s behavior and make them consider its impact. The third tactic challenges the bully’s motivation by asking "Attention or insecurity?" prompting self‑reflection. The speaker frames these approaches as practical, low‑risk ways to defuse bullying and encourages viewers to try them.

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What to say to a bully. Number 1, you're going to slowly ask the question, "Are you okay?" It signals to them that their behavior to the others around them is not okay, and most importantly, it doesn't give them the satisfaction of a reaction from you. Number 2, ask questions of intent. This sounds like, "Did you mean to embarrass me? Did you mean for that to offend me? Did you want to upset me or hurt me?" Or whatever it is, you're giving them a mirror to understand the consequences of their behavior. And number 3, say this: attention or insecurity? They're going to ask, what do you mean? You're going to respond, did you say that for attention or insecurity? And it'll make them think twice before saying something like that again. So try that and follow me.