What to Say to a Bully
In this instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concise, scripted responses to use when confronting a bully. The first response is a calm, non‑confrontational question—"Are you okay?"—which signals disapproval of the bully’s behavior while denying them a reaction. The second response involves asking the bully about their intent (e.g., "Did you mean to embarrass me?"), serving as a mirror that forces the bully to consider the impact of their actions. The third response challenges the bully’s motivation by asking, "Attention or insecurity?" prompting self‑reflection and discouraging future harassment. The speaker emphasizes that these techniques aim to de‑escalate the situation, deny the bully satisfaction, and encourage them to think twice before repeating the behavior.
