What to Say to a Bully
In this brief instructional video, the speaker presents three practical verbal strategies for responding to a bully. The first technique is to calmly ask, “Are you okay?” which signals disapproval of the bully’s behavior without providing the emotional reaction they may seek. The second technique involves asking intent‑focused questions such as “Did you mean to embarrass me?” or “Did you want to hurt me?” to mirror the consequences of the bully’s actions and prompt self‑reflection. The third technique challenges the bully’s motivation by asking, “Attention or insecurity?” which forces the bully to consider whether their comment was driven by a need for attention or underlying insecurity. The speaker encourages viewers to try these approaches as a way to defuse bullying situations.
