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What to Say to a Passive Aggressive Person #shorts

Name: What to Say to a Passive Aggressive Person #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-04-14T19:00:23+00:00
Duration: 55 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the presenter offers three concrete communication techniques for responding to passive‑aggressive remarks. First, she…

14 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the presenter offers three concrete communication techniques for responding to passive‑aggressive remarks. First, she suggests directly questioning the speaker’s intent with the line, “Was that meant to be helpful or hurtful?” to call out the behavior while giving the person a chance to clarify. Second, she recommends using an observational phrase such as “I’m noticing a negative tone right now” or “I’m noticing a pattern of frustration when we discuss finances,” which frames the response as an objective observation rather than an accusation. Third, she advises acknowledging the opposite of the speaker’s stated feeling—e.g., saying, “It’s okay if you aren’t fine” when someone claims they’re fine—thereby creating a safe space for honest expression. The video’s purpose is to equip viewers with simple, empathetic language that can de‑escalate passive‑aggressive interactions and encourage more open dialogue.

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What to say to a passive-aggressive person. Number 1: If somebody says something that is passive-aggressive, say this: Was that meant to be helpful or hurtful? It works because it not only calls out their behavior, but it also gives them the chance to clarify, which can often prevent it from going any further. Number 2: Use the phrase "I'm noticing." For example, I'm noticing a negative tone right now, or I'm noticing a pattern of frustration anytime we talk about finances. What it's saying is, "Despite what you may say, I'm observing something different." And number 3, acknowledge the reverse. Often people will try to deny negative feelings and say something like, "I'm fine." In that moment, just acknowledge the reverse and say, "It's okay if you aren't fine." They might say, "I'm good. I'm good." "It's okay if you aren't good." What you're doing is saying, "This is a safe space, so even if you are the opposite of what you say, it's all okay. We can still talk." So try that. Now follow me.