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What to Say to Sound More Assertive

Name: What to Say to Sound More Assertive
Uploaded: 2025-01-08T13:01:17+00:00
Duration: 42 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this brief instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concrete phrase alternatives designed to help listeners sound more…

8 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concrete phrase alternatives designed to help listeners sound more assertive in interpersonal interactions. Instead of saying "You can't speak to me that way," she suggests saying "I do not respond to that," framing a personal boundary and a respect threshold. Rather than accusing someone of interrupting, she recommends "I cannot hear you when you interrupt me," emphasizing the need for turn‑taking. Finally, she replaces "You never listen to me" with "I've said what I needed to say," signaling that the speaker's point has been made and they will not waste further time. The speaker explains the intent behind each rephrasing and encourages viewers to practice the suggestions.

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What to say to sound more assertive. Number 1, instead of saying, "You can't speak to me that way," you will say, "I do not respond to that." What you're saying is, "I have a standard, a threshold of respect that you must meet before your words are worth my response, and you're not there yet." Number 2, instead of saying, "You're interrupting me," you'll say, "I cannot hear you when you interrupt me." In other words, if you want me to listen, you're going to wait your turn. Number 2, instead of saying, "You never listen to me," You will say, "I've said what I needed to say." In other words, you've made your point. You will not waste your time with people who are committed to misunderstanding you. And that's what to say to sound more assertive. So try that, but follow me.