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What to Say When Someone Belittles You #shorts

Name: What to Say When Someone Belittles You #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-01-14T18:00:12+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short self‑help video, the presenter outlines three practical tactics for dealing with a person who makes belittling remarks. The first tactic is…

14 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this short self‑help video, the presenter outlines three practical tactics for dealing with a person who makes belittling remarks. The first tactic is to ask the speaker to repeat the comment, which removes the expected emotional payoff and puts the aggressor under a spotlight. The second tactic is to question the speaker’s intent (e.g., “Did you mean to hurt me?”), turning the focus back onto the aggressor and forcing self‑reflection. The third tactic is to remain silent after the aggressor attempts to justify or backtrack, allowing the silence to convey control and undermine the aggressor’s excuses. The video concludes by encouraging viewers to try these steps and follow the presenter for more advice.

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What to say when someone belittles you. Number 1, make them say it again. When you make them repeat what they just said that was meant to put you down, you take all the fun out of it. When you calmly say, "I need you to repeat that," or, "I want you to say that again," they don't get that hit of dopamine they were expecting from your reaction. So when you make them repeat it, you've now just put a big spotlight on their behavior, and that makes them nervous. Number 2, regardless if they actually had the guts to repeat it, we're now going to turn the tables using questions of intent. These sound like, did you want that to hurt me? Did you intend to embarrass me? Instead of a spotlight, they now have a mirror that they have to face themselves with the question, what was my purpose saying that? And number 3, no matter what they say, don't respond. Let your silence be your answer, because most likely they're going to have a terrible excuse. They're going to say that they were just joking, or they're going to start fumbling over their words and backtracking. When they do, just let that linger. Then you're the one who looks at control. And that's how to handle somebody who's trying to belittle you. So try that and follow me.