What to say when someone gaslights you
In this concise self‑help video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three simple communication tactics for dealing with a gaslighter. First, she advises keeping responses as brief as possible to avoid being drawn into the gaslighter’s distractions. Second, she recommends repeatedly using an acknowledgement phrase such as “I understand you disagree with me” whenever the gaslighter attacks you, which steers the conversation away from conflict. Third, she suggests replying with a neutral perspective phrase – “I see things differently” – instead of directly denying the gaslighter’s claim, thereby maintaining control and preventing escalation. The speaker frames these steps as easy, repeatable tools that empower the listener to stay grounded and in control during manipulative interactions.
