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What to Say When Someone is Condescending #shorts

Name: What to Say When Someone is Condescending #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-03-25T19:00:00+00:00
Duration: 55 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, the speaker presents three practical strategies for responding to condescending remarks. The first strategy, "call…

25 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, the speaker presents three practical strategies for responding to condescending remarks. The first strategy, "call it out," involves directly addressing the tone by using intent‑focused language—e.g., asking, "Was that meant to be condescending?"—while offering the speaker a chance to correct themselves. The second, "detach," advises stepping back from the interaction, refusing to engage further, and stating a clear boundary such as, "I'm not going to get involved in that." The third, "see it differently," suggests reframing the comment by replying, "I see it differently," which both asserts the listener’s perspective and maintains personal grounding. Each method is illustrated with short example phrases, and the overall message encourages viewers to apply these scripts to handle condescension confidently.

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What to say when someone's condescending. Number 1, call it out. We do that by using words of intent, as in what they meant to say. For example, if somebody said, I'd explain it to you, but you probably wouldn't understand. If they were a friend, you could say, I know you didn't mean that to be condescending. Or if you need to be more assertive, you can say, was that meant to be condescending? What you're doing is calling it out at the same time giving them the grace to fix it. Number 2, detach from it. For example, if somebody were to say, I've been doing this forever, but sure, go ahead, tell me more. You're going to respond with, I'm not sure what you're doing, but that's all you. What you're saying is, I'm not going there. I don't know where this is coming from, but I don't intend to find out. So if you're going to behave that way, I'm not going to have any involvement. And number 3, see it differently. No matter what somebody says that's condescending, you can always reply with, I see it differently. And you can repeat it as oftentimes as you need. It works because it's very direct, but it also keeps you grounded. And that's how to respond to somebody who's condescending. So try that and follow me.