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What to Say When Someone Puts You Down

Name: What to Say When Someone Puts You Down
Uploaded: 2025-01-10T13:00:36+00:00
Duration: 46 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents a practical three‑step approach for handling when someone attempts to put you…

10 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents a practical three‑step approach for handling when someone attempts to put you down. Step 1 is to call the behavior out by asking, “Is that a put‑down?” which forces the speaker to confront the act. Step 2 anticipates a denial; the listener calmly asks the person to rephrase their comment, prompting a more respectful expression. Step 3 deals with the case where the person admits the put‑down, responding with questions like “Do you feel better now?” or “Did you get the response you were looking for?” to highlight the negative impact and discourage future attempts. The monologue ends with an encouragement to try the script and follow the speaker for more advice.

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What to say when someone tries to put you down. Number 1, ask the question, is that a put-down? Is that a put-down? You are forcing them out into the open to expose them and saying, let's call a spade a spade. Number 2, they're most likely going to respond no. They're going to come up with some lame excuse like, no, what I meant to say was— whatever they say, you're going to calmly respond, then I suggest you find another way to say that. And number 3, on the off chance that they do say yes, it was meant as a put-down, you are going to slowly say, "and do you feel better now?" or "and did you get the response you were looking for?" You're letting them know that the next time they try to pull this off, they're going to leave with another bad taste in their mouth. And that's what to say when somebody tries to put you down. So try that and follow me.