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What to Say When Someone Talks Down to You

Name: What to Say When Someone Talks Down to You
Uploaded: 2024-09-19T14:00:54+00:00
Duration: 59 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise coaching monologue, the speaker presents three assertive communication strategies for handling people who speak condescendingly. The…

19 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise coaching monologue, the speaker presents three assertive communication strategies for handling people who speak condescendingly. The first technique, "flip it," involves declaring the other person's behavior as "beneath" you, thereby reversing the power dynamic. The second, "maintain position," uses authoritative language such as "allow" and "give" to signal control over how you will be treated. The third, "reset the terms," frames your willingness to continue the conversation only under respectful conditions, using phrases like "I'm willing to engage if you speak to me respectfully." The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to apply these methods and to follow them for more content.

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What to say when someone talks down to you. Number 1, flip it. When somebody's talking down to you, instead of staying in this inferior position, you will say that whatever they just told you is either beneath you or below you. It's as easy as saying, "The way you're treating me right now is beneath me." When you do that, when you flip that power dynamic, you stay in control while they have no choice but to change their behavior for the conversation to continue. Number 2, maintain position. You can do that by using the words "allow" and "give." For example, "I will allow you to try that again. I'm giving you the opportunity to say that to me differently." Those are words of authority, and it sends the message that I am in complete control of how I will be treated. Number 3, reset the terms. You do that by using the phrase "I'm willing," what you're willing to do. "I'm willing to engage in this conversation if you speak to me respectfully. I'm willing to talk with you if we're on the same page." It is you lining out the instructions of how this conversation is to move forward. And that's how to handle somebody who's talking down to you. So try that. Now follow me.