What to say when someone tells you to "calm down"
In this concise advice video, the speaker outlines three practical ways to respond when someone tells you to "calm down." First, they suggest asking whether the person means "calm" (a caring request) or "quiet" (a controlling request), highlighting the difference between supportive and dismissive intentions. Second, they recommend replying with a firm "no" and supporting statements such as "my feelings aren't for your comfort" or "I get to decide how calm I'll be," thereby asserting personal authority over emotional regulation. Third, they advise asking "for me or for you?" to expose whose interests the request serves, prompting the speaker to reveal whether the request is self‑serving. The video encourages viewers to try these lines to set boundaries and maintain emotional autonomy.
