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What to say when they are being petty

Name: What to say when they are being petty
Uploaded: 2025-04-07T13:01:21+00:00
Duration: 1 min 6 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short coaching monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concise statements to use when confronting someone who is being petty. The first…

7 Apr 2025 · 1 min

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In this short coaching monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concise statements to use when confronting someone who is being petty. The first line, “I’m not going there,” establishes a boundary by refusing to engage in low‑energy, petty drama. The second, “You have the right to think differently,” neutralizes the person by acknowledging their opinion while subtly prompting them to reconsider their behavior. The third, “I believe you’re bigger than that,” reframes the interaction by empowering the person, suggesting they are capable of rising above small‑mindedness. Liu explains why each line works and encourages viewers to try them, ending with a call to follow her channel.

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What to say when they're being petty. Number 1, I'm not going there. I'm not going where you're headed. If you want to be petty and make a mountain out of a molehill, well then you're going to have to do that all on your own because I'm not going to waste my energy stooping that low. Therefore, I'm not going there because what's beneath me is not for me. Number 1, I'm not going there. I'm not going where you're headed. If you want to be petty and make a mountain out of a molehill, well then you're going to do that all on your own because I'm not going to waste my energy stooping that low. Therefore, I'm not going there because what's beneath me is not for me. Number 2, you have the right to think differently. Now, I find that this phrase typically neutralizes and disarms people because it gives them 2 options. On one hand, you're saying they can think differently. In other words, they have opinions that they're entitled to, which is true. And then on the other side, you're saying, hey, you can think differently about your behavior, which makes them pause to reconsider it. And number 3, I believe you're bigger than that. When somebody is being petty, it's typically because they're feeling small. And they're thinking small. But when you say, "I believe in you," you are empowering them to share that same belief and encouraging them to expand their thinking. And that's what to say when somebody's being petty. So try that and follow me.