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What to say when they're being petty

Name: What to say when they're being petty
Uploaded: 2024-12-14T15:00:43+00:00
Duration: 53 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, offers a concise framework for responding to petty behavior. She outlines three specific…

14 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, offers a concise framework for responding to petty behavior. She outlines three specific phrases and the psychological rationale behind each: 1) “I’m not going there…” – a firm refusal to engage, preserving personal energy and setting a boundary; 2) “You have the right to think differently” – a neutralizing statement that acknowledges the other’s opinion while prompting reflection on their actions; 3) “I believe you’re bigger than that” – an empowering affirmation that encourages the petty individual to rise above small‑mindedness. The video concludes with a call to follow the creator for more advice.

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What to say when they're being petty. Number 1, I'm not going there. I'm not going where you're headed. If you want to be petty and make a mountain out of a molehill, well then you're going to do that all on your own because I'm not going to waste my energy stooping that low. Therefore, I'm not going there because what's beneath me is not for me. Number 2, you have the right to think differently. Now I find that this phrase typically neutralizes and disarms people because it gives them 2 options. On one hand, you're saying they can think differently. In other words, they have opinions that they're entitled to, which is true. And then on the other side, you're saying, hey, you can think differently about your behavior, which makes them pause to reconsider it. And number 3, "I believe you're bigger than that." When somebody's being petty, it's typically because they're feeling small and they're thinking small. But when you say, "I believe in you," you are empowering them to share that same belief and encouraging them to expand their thinking. And that's what to say when somebody's being petty. So try that, but follow me.