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What to Say When You Feel Left Out #shorts

Name: What to Say When You Feel Left Out #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-06-23T19:00:21+00:00
Duration: 54 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, offers three concise strategies for handling feelings of exclusion. First, she advises accepting that…

23 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, speaker Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, offers three concise strategies for handling feelings of exclusion. First, she advises accepting that you may not have been meant to be there, reframing a closed door as a blessing and protecting self‑esteem. Second, she recommends using "I" statements rather than "you" accusations when discussing the situation, to avoid triggering defensiveness. Third, she suggests shifting the conversation toward the other person's experience, expressing genuine happiness for their joy and sharing in the present moment. The video ends with a call to follow the creator for more advice.

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What to say when you feel left out. Number 1, instead of beating yourself up asking, why didn't they invite me? Why didn't they want me? Take a pause for your self-esteem and get really used to the idea that you weren't meant to be there. You weren't meant to be there. There is a blessing in a door closed. You weren't meant to be there. Why wasn't I invited? Doesn't matter. I wasn't meant to be there. Understand that what matters is where you are, not where you're invited to. Number 2, if you have to talk to them about it, don't begin with the word you. Like, "You never called me, you didn't invite me." Instead, start with "I," like, "I was bummed out I didn't get an invitation," or, "I'm starting to feel some distance." It keeps them from getting defensive. And number 3, instead of making it about you, ask about them. Ask them how it went, how it was. True friendship says, "If I couldn't share in the past moment, then I'm going to share in the present joy and be happy that they're happy." And that's what to say when you're feeling a little left out. So try that and follow me.