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What to Say When You Feel Left Out #shorts

Name: What to Say When You Feel Left Out #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-11-17T20:00:02+00:00
Duration: 54 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short self‑help video, the speaker offers three concrete strategies for handling feelings of exclusion. First, they suggest reframing the…

17 Nov 2023 · 1 min

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In this short self‑help video, the speaker offers three concrete strategies for handling feelings of exclusion. First, they suggest reframing the situation by accepting that you weren’t meant to be there, turning a closed door into a blessing and protecting self‑esteem. Second, they advise using “I” statements instead of “you” when discussing the issue, to avoid putting the other person on the defensive (e.g., “I was bummed I didn’t get an invitation”). Third, they recommend shifting the focus outward: ask the other person about the event, celebrate their joy, and express willingness to share in the present happiness. The overall message is to manage the emotional response, communicate constructively, and maintain positive relationships.

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What to say when you feel left out. Number 1, instead of beating yourself up asking, why didn't they invite me? Why didn't they want me? Take a pause for your self-esteem and get really used to the idea that you weren't meant to be there. You weren't meant to be there. There is a blessing in a door closed. You weren't meant to be there. Why wasn't I invited? Doesn't matter. I wasn't meant to be there. Understand that what matters is where you are, not where you're invited to. Number 2, if you have to talk to them about it, don't begin with the word you. Like, "You never called me, you didn't invite me." Instead, start with "I," like, "I was bummed out I didn't get an invitation," or, "I'm starting to feel some distance." It keeps them from getting defensive. And number 3, instead of making it about you, ask about them. Ask them how it went, how it was. True friendship says, "If I couldn't share in the past moment, then I'm going to share in the present joy and be happy that they're happy." And that's what to say when you're feeling a little left out. So try that and follow me.