A life coach's question: what would make this awesome? Instead of dwelling on painful moments like divorce or fights, ask what growth story you want to tell. You get to choose the narrative that turns hardship into resilience.
There's a good friend of mine who's a really successful life coach. She asked this question that I really like, which is, what would make this awesome? Your parents get divorced, that sucks. Well, what would make this awesome? And then what would that narrative look like? And then why don't I choose to believe that narrative instead? Like, what would make this fight with my wife awesome? Well, what if this was the fight that ended up being the thing that brought us together and it became another kind of notch on the belt of things that we have gone through and survived? Something that made us stronger. And I think it's really just looking at every hardship in that light. Like, what would make this hardship awesome? It'd be awesome if I could tell the story once we succeed.
