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When Someone is Talking Over You

Name: When Someone is Talking Over You
Uploaded: 2024-11-29T22:07:22+00:00
Duration: 51 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines a three‑step approach for dealing with interruptions in conversation. First, she…

29 Nov 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines a three‑step approach for dealing with interruptions in conversation. First, she advises speakers to slow down their speech and keep talking, creating a calm contrast that positions the interrupter as unreasonable. Second, she recommends maintaining the same volume rather than trying to out‑shout the interrupter, because matching volume signals loss of control. Third, she suggests using the interrupter’s name to draw attention and assert authority, e.g., “Jefferson, I can’t hear you when you talk over me.” The overall message is to stay composed, keep a steady tone, and use direct address to regain conversational dominance without escalating the conflict.

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The next time that someone tries to talk over you in a conversation, here's what I want you to do. Number 1, slow down your words and don't stop talking. What you're doing is drawing a contrast between their raised voice trying to talk over you and your calm voice. And in that contrast, it exposes them as the less reasonable in the conversation and you more in control. That means number 2, you're going to resist the urge to outmatch their volume. When somebody else is talking over you and you try to talk back over them, it doesn't make you sound like you're in control. It It sound like you've lost it and now you're reaching for it again. It's the weaker position. Instead, keep your volume exactly the same. And number 3, if you need to be a little bit more forceful, use their name. Jefferson, I can't hear you when you talk over me. Jefferson, talking over me is not helpful. Use their name. It gets their attention. So try that and follow me.