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When Someone Talks Down to You

Name: When Someone Talks Down to You
Uploaded: 2025-04-09T05:00:16+00:00
Duration: 59 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this instructional monologue, the presenter offers three practical techniques for responding to someone who talks down to you. The first, "Flip it,"…

9 Apr 2025 · 1 min

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In this instructional monologue, the presenter offers three practical techniques for responding to someone who talks down to you. The first, "Flip it," involves reframing the power dynamic by declaring the other person's behavior as beneath you, thereby forcing them to adjust. The second, "Maintain position," uses authoritative language such as "allow" and "give" to assert control over how you will be treated. The third, "Reset the terms," sets clear conversational conditions with phrases like "I'm willing to engage if you speak respectfully," establishing boundaries and expectations. The speaker provides concrete example phrases for each strategy and concludes with a call to follow them for more guidance.

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What to say when someone talks down to you. Number 1: Flip it. When somebody's talking down to you, instead of staying in this inferior position, you will say that whatever they just told you is either beneath you or below you. It's as easy as saying, "The way you're treating me right now is beneath me." When you do that, when you flip that power dynamic, you stay in control while they have no choice but to change their behavior for the conversation to continue. Number 2: Maintain position. You can do that by using the words "allow" and "give." For example, "I will allow you to try that again. I'm giving you the opportunity to say that to me differently." Those are words of authority, and it sends the message that I am in complete control of how I will be treated. Number 3, reset the terms. You do that by using the phrase "I'm willing," what you're willing to do. "I'm willing to engage in this conversation if you speak to me respectfully. I'm willing to talk with you if we're on the same page." It is you lining out the instructions of how this conversation is to move forward. And that's how to handle somebody who's talking down to you. So try that. Now follow me.