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When someone tries to tell you how to feel

Name: When someone tries to tell you how to feel
Uploaded: 2024-10-03T14:00:16+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this brief motivational monologue, the speaker addresses situations where others attempt to dictate how you should feel about a statement or event…

3 Oct 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief motivational monologue, the speaker addresses situations where others attempt to dictate how you should feel about a statement or event. Using analogies like "judge and jury" and "pitcher and umpire," the speaker emphasizes that only you have authority over your emotions and reactions. The speaker provides concrete response templates, such as "I get to decide if it’s a big deal to me" or "I get to decide exactly how much I’ll react," encouraging listeners to assert emotional autonomy and set boundaries when faced with judgments or attempts to minimize their feelings.

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What to say when someone tries to tell you how you should feel. Now, maybe you forgot, but no one can tell you something and then turn around and tell you how to feel about it. They can't be both judge and jury. They can't be the pitcher and also be the umpire. The next time that someone says, listen, you just let it go, okay? It's not that big of a deal. You'll respond, I get to decide that. What you're saying is I get to decide if it's a big deal to me or not. If they say you don't care, you don't care about me, I get to decide that. You can even go more detailed. They say, listen, just, you're overreacting, okay? You'll respond, I get to decide exactly how much I'll be reacting to what you said. The only person in control of your thoughts, your emotions, is you. So try that and follow me.