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When They’ve Crossed a Boundary #shorts

Name: When They’ve Crossed a Boundary #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-12-25T02:07:48+00:00
Duration: 40 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this YouTube short, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, delivers a concise, instructional monologue on how to respond when someone violates a personal boundary. She…

25 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this YouTube short, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, delivers a concise, instructional monologue on how to respond when someone violates a personal boundary. She frames the violation as "trespassing" and advises using firm language—e.g., "the way you just spoke to me is trespassing"—to label the behavior. After stating the boundary, the speaker emphasizes the importance of immediately enacting the pre‑decided consequence, such as walking away, ending the conversation, or creating distance, with no exceptions or need for justification. The core message is that boundaries are set for the speaker’s well‑being, not to make others comfortable, and that consistently applying this approach builds assertiveness.

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What to say when they've crossed your boundary. It's trespassing. That's what it is. So that's what you tell them. For example, if you've already asserted your boundary and they cross that boundary anyway, you will firmly say to them, the way you just spoke to me is trespassing, full stop. Then you do what your boundary said you would do. You will fulfill it. You will walk away. You will leave the conversation. You will add distance. No exception. It's this idea that no, there's no part of this that's up for discussion. No, I don't have to make this make sense to you. My boundaries were not put up to make you feel comfortable. They're put up for me. And the more you understand this and the more you get used to that idea, the more assertive you'll be. So try that. Follow me.