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Winning arguments is a bad thing...

Name: Winning arguments is a bad thing...
Uploaded: 2026-01-17T19:44:41+00:00
Duration: 35 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short monologue, the speaker argues that attempting to win an argument is counterproductive because it damages relationships. They explain that…

17 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker argues that attempting to win an argument is counterproductive because it damages relationships. They explain that focusing on proving others wrong may secure a point, but it leads to loss of the person, awkwardness, and eventual need to apologize. The speaker illustrates this with examples of hurtful remarks, hanging up, and the uncomfortable silence that follows, concluding that the 'prize' for winning is the burden of apologizing and a strained connection.

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You never want to win an argument. And this is why. When you look to win an argument, you will often lose the relationship. Like if you set out to only prove people wrong, you might win the point, but you will lose the person. An argument eventually burns out. That's what happens. But when you set out to win, you will lose the relationship. Like if you, you and I are in an argument and I say something that's really hurtful, and then you leave, you hang up the phone. What have I won? Yeah, I mean, I've won awkward silence now when we pass each other in the hall. When you have the last word, you are typically first up to apologize. That's all you bought yourself. That's your prize. Congrats.