Boundaries! Why we need them and how they work. #motivation #stress #toxic #health #boundaries

Oftentimes in self-defense, I will have people say something like, hey, you need to stop right there. And if they— if a stranger or somebody keeps coming towards them, then they know they're going to have to defend themselves or they're going to have to get a stronger boundary. So how we get boundaries to work for us is by knowing what we want, asking very clearly and precisely, and then allowing the other person to respond. How they respond says a lot. If you have people that step over your boundaries, ignore you, don't Don't listen, don't care. Essentially what they're saying is, what I want is more important than what you've asked for. So anytime you set a line in the sand or a boundary or a, hey, I prefer this, and somebody ignores it, what they're telling you is what they want is more important than what you've asked for or what you need.