In this episode of The Scary Guy Podcast, host The Scary Guy engages Jamie Archer in a conversational lesson about perception, language, and personal responsibility. The dialogue frames everything we experience as energy, noting that roughly 70% of our lives are shaped by visual (non‑verbal) input and 30% by auditory input. Using the speed of sound (approximately 767 mph) as a metaphor, The Scary Guy encourages listeners to visualize words as physical energy traveling from a speaker’s mouth to the listener’s ears and then into the brain. He argues that any spoken word is a projection of the speaker’s internal state, not a reflection of the listener, and therefore past abusive language was never truly “about” the recipient. From this premise, he introduces a three‑question framework—Did I hear it? Where did it come from? Who is it about?—to help people re‑interpret incoming speech. The conversation then shifts to the concept of a “reactionary mind,” where individuals automatically react to perceived attacks, and contrasts it with a “responsive” mindset that fosters responsibility. The episode concludes with practical advice for teaching children to pause, ask these questions, and choose how they respond, thereby breaking the cycle of reactionary behavior.
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You gotta look at everything. Everything that happens in your life is energy. Everything, everything that you see is entering your eyes is light energy. 70% of your life has been shaped by what you see. That's non-verbal communication. 30% of your life has been shaped by what you hear. Isn't that something? That's— that would be— well, you can hear me so far, can't you?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely.
Loud and clear. All right, okay. So how do my words get to you?
By the speaker and then into my ears.
But how? What is it that creates that energy?
Oh, sound. Sound waves.
Exactly.
Yeah.
And how fast does sound travel?
Do you know what? You've got me there.
Fast. Well, you've heard of the speed of sound before.
Yeah, of course. I just don't know what it is.
It's 767 miles an hour. No. Can you see my words?
No.
Well, we're going to help you understand that you have the power to see everything, including words.
Okay.
Physically, you can't really see my words, but I want you to start visualizing that every time someone speaks to you, that sound traveling at 767 miles an hour, and they enter your ears and go directly into your mind at that speed. Yeah, right. Let me ask you this: are you in charge of your brain?
Yeah, to a degree.
Well, if I call you a rotten word, who's that word about?
Oh, it's about me.
Well, then I'm in charge of your brain.
Okay.
Yeah, that's what you just told me.
Yeah.
So what we want to do is we want you truly to believe and see All words is energy. So where are my words created?
In your brain, and then—
Well, now that's a question, so let's get definitive here. Where are my words created?
In your brain.
Exactly. So they come out of my mouth.
Yeah.
And they come sailing through the air at 767 miles an hour. You can start to see them now. And they hit your eardrum and then they go directly into your brain.
Yeah.
So who are my rotten words about?
About me?
I don't know. I'm in charge of you still then.
Oh, right. No, okay, I'm with you. So about you?
Yeah, who— because who created them?
You created them.
So they're projecting them onto me. All right, so everything that comes out of a person's mouth was created by that person in their mind. And is a direct reflection of who that person is in that moment.
Wow.
So therefore, everything you've heard your entire life was never about you.
You don't know how profound that—
yeah, okay, that's going to be a mind-blowing episode for you to have to fathom that, because even your abusive father and even your abusive stepfather All their words were a direct reflection of who they were as people. The only thing you didn't have as a child, and now you're starting to get at 40, is the power to process that whole thing. Yeah, you didn't have that ability. Nobody taught you that.
No.
Yeah, well, now just in this one quick lesson, of course, start to see all the stuff coming at you, and you can ask yourself some really important questions like, did I, did I just hear that? That's number one. Where did it come from? Well, it came from that person over there. And then really, who is it all about? Yeah, you got to answer those three questions to yourself.
Of course.
Did I just— yeah, I heard that. Where did it come— came from? Him. Who's it about then? It's about him, not about me. I don't— it's not mine.
Can I— I'll tell you now, that message will be passed on to my 12-year-old and my 9-year-old.
Oh, you gotta do it.
You gotta do it.
You gotta do it. You know what they have?
What's that?
Which all of them have it. The world is riddled with it. It's called a reactionary mind. Yeah, so they react to everything. It's like hitting your hand, hitting your thumb with a hammer, you know, when you hit your thumb and then every time you touch something with a sore thumb you can feel it, and then the hammer comes back to your mind. See, so they live in a reactionary state, a reactionary mind. What you're going to teach them by teaching them that little lesson is how to be responsive, which leads to responsibility. See, reactionary, you buy into the energy, you become what was created versus deciding who you want to be.
