Can't stop thinking about that negative boss?

31 Jan 2026 · 2 min

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In this short YouTube video, a coach addresses high‑performing women who are stuck ruminating about a negative boss. She explains that the nervous system treats the anticipation of a stressful interaction as a real threat, which leads to exhaustion, sleepless replay of conversations, and a constant feeling of walking on eggshells. The speaker notes that common coping methods—journaling, boundary‑setting, therapy—often leave the listener still trapped in the mental loop. She argues that trying harder only gives the boss more power over the mind. The core recommendation is to shift attention away from the rumination, likened to a squirrel’s quick focus change, through a brief coaching program called the “Tiny Reset,” which consists of three private calls aimed at breaking consuming thought patterns and regaining mental control. The video ends with a call‑to‑action linking to the program.

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The worst thing you can do when you can't stop thinking about that negative boss is actually stop trying to fix it. We've all had someone living like rent-free in our minds, you know, some old friend or, you know, or someone in authority who, who hurt us. When it's your boss, you can't just block them because you got to see them tomorrow. You got to collect that paycheck. You've got to perform for them in a meeting. You've got to just smile through it. I coach high-performing women who have tried lots of things, journaling, setting boundaries, therapy. We are still stuck, exhausted, replaying conversations in their head 3 o'clock in the morning and dreading every next meeting. We can't fix it by just trying harder, thinking different things. Our nervous system can't tell the difference between like a real threat and like the make-believe stuff of anticipating. What that— what might happen. This makes us feel tired and exhausted, like you constantly walking on eggshells and figuring out, you know, what mood is she gonna be in today? Work through this meeting, work through this presentation. That's just doing too much. It's like we have soundtrack, you know, playing over and over in our mind, and of just all those negative things that Deshane— we gotta unplug that. The more you work on it, the more power you give that person by continuing continuing to think about it. How can I fix it in my mind? Actual solution, just shift your attention like squirrel. That's what I can help you with in the Tiny Reset. 3 private coaching calls, break the patterns that are consuming you, take control of your mind again. What it's not, we're not gonna change your whole life. We're just gonna have 3 calls, 3 conversations to get you back in control of your mind. The link is in the description. Let's liberate the most important thing in your life, your mind.