Vanessa Van Edwards explains why men miss romantic signals: research shows they need about 17 flirty glances to register interest, not 2 or 3. She breaks down specific tactics women can use, like angling toward someone and holding their gaze, to make interest unmistakable.
Men typically, but not always, see a friendliness signal as flirtation, so they often misinterpret, which is why they're so scared. And women often miss the signals completely. For women, if you are into someone, it's going to take a lot of very clear signals. Dr. Monica Moore measured this. She found that even just 2 or 3 flirty glances across the room, not enough. You know how many they needed to do? 17. You got to be into it because they're missed. And a man might be like, is she into me? I got— I want to approach. I don't want to be rejected. They're also scared of rejection, right? They don't want to have that. So give them a gift. Clear signaling. Angle your body towards them. No matter where you are in the room, your body and your toes are angled right towards them. You're giving lots of flirty glances. You're holding and then you're leaving. You're holding and then you're smiling. And you're holding again. That's how we're doing it. And for men, if you approach in a respectful way where it could be friend or romantic, you win. If your intention is just, I'm going to be kind and polite here, you cannot lose.
