Confidence isn't the absence of awkwardness. It's feeling awkward and doing the thing anyway. The speaker shares her own chronic awkwardness and argues that discomfort should never stop you from acting.
I have a hard truth, which is confidence is not the absence of awkwardness. Confidence is feeling awkward and knowing how to move through it. I think I've heard people say, oh, I'm not going to do that thing or I don't want to do. I don't want to try that because it makes me feel awkward. And believe me, as a recovering awkward person, I get it. I feel awkward all the time. What's really critical here is I don't want awkwardness to stop you from doing something. I think that true confidence is actually feeling a little bit awkward, feeling a little bit socially uncomfortable and knowing what to do and what skills to use to be able to move through it. And so I have a little challenge for you here, which is I don't want you to stop doing things because you're awkward. I want you to feel that awkwardness and figure out what do I need to do or say to be able to move through it. And that is true confidence.
